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6 Lessons My Grandmothers Taught Me

6 Lessons My Grandmothers Taught Me

Lessons my grandmother taught me

I was fortunate to grow up spending ample quality time with both my maternal and paternal grandmothers. They were different women in every sense of the word, but the one thing that they had in common was a profound strength and perseverance. As we celebrate Mother's Day, I look back on 6 things these extraordinary women taught me. 

1. A Strong Work Ethic

My maternal grandmother, Guadalupe Ochoa, grew up as a migrant worker. When she married my grandfather, they had nine children and migrated from Texas to Michigan for farm work. She and her children picked in the fields every day, from sunrise to sunset. There were no spa-days or sleeping in on the weekends. She had to cook breakfast, lunch, and dinner for the entire family, complete household duties and still put in a full day's work in the fields. Never in my life would I complain about hard work. I’m grateful that I get the opportunity to work and not have to experience the brutal circumstances that field workers have to endure.

2. God Has A Plan For You

My paternal grandmother, Consuelo Najera, once told me never to stress out about life, love, work, or money. She explained to me that God has a plan for everyone and if you trust in his plan, then there is no need to feel anxious or stressed about how life unfolds. Life will unfold the way it's supposed to and worrying will make absolutely no difference to the outcome. I’m not very religious, I see myself as more spiritual, but this advice has gotten me through a lot of tough times. And she was absolutely right. Worrying about a past that doesn’t exist or a future that hasn’t happened yet takes you away from the present moment. It’s in the present moment where we find clarity.

Lessons my grandmother taught me

3. Love Takes Work

My Grandma Consuelo was married to my grandfather for over fifty years. They loved each other deeply. However, there were many times she felt frustrated with him and just wanted to walk (or run) away. She explained to me that love is not always exciting and breathless and full of passion. True love is what happens when the flames have gone away and you're left with your true partner in life. Anyone can be "in love" but it takes real work to truly love another person and a strong commitment to making it last. 

4. Don't Be A Shrinking Violet

My Grandma Lupe had a very strong personality. She never shied away from voicing her opinion or letting you know when she was dissatisfied. If she were born under different times and circumstances I am certain she would have founded and run a billion dollar company. She once told me that bashful women are never taken seriously. Be bold, kick-ass, and never apologize for your intelligence, opinions or if you've made a man feel inferior. 

5. You Are More Important Than You Realize

Sometimes, domestic life can feel like an endless maze — dishes, laundry, diapers, cleaning, cleaning, and more cleaning. Life can seem underwhelming and my value to the world can feel non-existent. However, I've learned that I am an important cog in my family, if not the entire cog itself. When my Grandma Lupe passed away, my mom's side of the family drifted apart. She was the anchor, the main connector. I now realize that I am becoming an anchor myself and that is the most important thing I can be for my family.

Lessons my grandmother taught . me

6. Food Will Always Bring Family Together

These women loved to cook! They loved spending time in the kitchen cooking big meals for the family. It was their way of showing love and appreciation. Nothing made them happier than when everyone gathered around the table to eat the food they had worked so hard on. No Mexican restaurant on earth can hold a candle to my grandmothers' posole, menudo, tamales, hand-made tortillas, chile, and tacos. I plan to pass these recipes down to my children and continue to hold onto the tradition of big family meals. Nothing would make me happier. 

What life lessons have you learned from your grandmother? 

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